The End of a Hiatus...

       Initially when I decided to create this platform I was eager to get it up and running. Reading is so important to me because it allows me to travel without actually leaving my bed. It allows me to feel certain emotions as well as experience certain things in life without actually becoming too vulnerable. It truly is one of my favorite pastimes and it seemed to be that of so many of my peers....
         I wanted to figure out a way to unite us all in a way that was different from the typical book club. Let's face it, life gets in the way of so many things at times. Whether it be school, work, kids, family, or simply just feeling too many emotions at once that it's crippling. I'm still working through the kinks and aim to really propel this to a level that I may not even be 300% sure of yet. That's the beauty of it though. Riding the wave and seeing where it takes you.    
        That last line in the previous paragraph, "riding the wave and seeing where it takes you...", it's so much easier said than done, right? We have been conditioned to want to control everything. We have a plan or a path we want to take with a desired/expected outcome. When life shifts and bumps us off of that path we are blinded. Stuck in the moment. Trying to figure out how to jump back on the path, getting back to the last step that we stumbled from. At the same time we do not realize that maybe this bump was necessary. Maybe the new route is the one that will tie the journey together and make it worth while. 
       These last few months have been terribly challenging for me, crippling and immobilizing to describe it lightly. Most wouldn't guess though because I don't talk too much. I don't overly express myself or allow too many people to see my vulnerability. It's scary. Not because my mom and dad conditioned me to feel that way (they didn't) but simply because I have never wanted to be too vulnerable in certain areas. Trust is important to me so before I tear down barriers or peel away at layers I've got to trust you. Fair enough, right? I don't like opening the door to unwanted critics. I've been burned too much as it is. Sometimes people spare no consideration for others when criticizing them. 
        What did I do to aid my challenging journey? First and foremost, I won't say that I've made it thru as of yet, however, I am pushing forward. Well some days, as mentioned previously, I couldn't move. I buried myself in emotion until I absolutely couldn't anymore. Not picking up a book for days, not answering phone calls, texts, etc. Meanwhile other days, I dove into poetry and affirmations. Completing two to three books in a day. I've read over 40+ novels and poetry compilations since July 4th. I didn't lose sight of my love for them yet I couldn't bring myself here. To this platform, to write.
       The last two books I picked up, Don't Sweat The Small Stuff...and it's all small stuff by Richard Carlson, PH. D, gifted to me by my ex's parents in 2011, and tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom, which I haven't even finished yet, really woke me up. I've always been an anxious person. Wanting to be successful and do things the right way. I'm a planner so by design I always have an outline/to-do list and just want to check things off as I go along. I think hiccups stress me out more than the average joe lol Reading these books, especially Don't Sweat The Small Stuff...and it's all small stuff, reminded me that everything that is happening is what makes the victory that much sweeter. The second chapter, "Make Peace with Imperfection", 9 pages into the book was like my lightbulb moment, my revelation (I've had many). It centered me. Allowing me to regain the confidence to write again. I'll be honest, writing was never my strong suit and it took a while for me to even want to venture into sharing my thoughts because I hate being judged. But I came to the realization several times, which to some may seem like common sense, that people are going to judge you regardless. I constantly have to remind myself of this because I approach people without initial judgement. I allow the interactions and words of the person to really paint the image that they represent...
         To the anxious reader, I urge you to pick up a book from a genre that smoothes your mind. It doesn't have to be anything that I have recommended. What works for me may not work for you but just give it a try. In days that communicating becomes hard, free your mind by reading...

Books featured in this post:

Don't Sweat The Small Stuff...
and it's all small stuff
by: Richard Carlson, Ph.D

tuesdays with Morrie
by Mitch Albom

Thanks for letting me peel away at a few layers...
More to come :)

Endless love always, in all ways!!

New Year Guidance

Blessed New Year Friends! 

This is such an extraordinary time in my life. Starting this blog is truly a blessing because I believe, through Lady Bookworm, I can reach the masses. My intention is to reach you all differently. I think we have forgotten the vitality that lies within reading. I intend on reviving that. Books can reveal so much. Knowing our worth, our history, and how truly special we are. 

I felt it necessary to make my first post about daily reflections...

I purchased a book titled, "Daily Reflections for Highly Effective People" by Stephen R. Covey. I made this purchase in March 2015. I shared the excerpts with my second family at the Fontainebleau, daily. I highly recommend making this purchase. If you have heard of Stephen R. Covey and Franklin Covey then I guarantee that you have certainly heard of the personal growth staple, "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People". Daily Reflections for Highly Effective People sums up a different habit with each day and these habits can apply to various areas of your life. I started off by reading the reflections when I had a rough or aggravating day at work until it became habit to just pick up the book first thing in the morning and read that day's reflection. Once my habit became the norm I started sharing the reflections at my team's daily line-ups, which went over quite well. These habits teach you that you control your destiny and you carry your own weather. Therefore, if you are having a difficult day reflecting on your control over all situations will help you change your weather.  

I highly recommend this purchase. Not only will this book ground and balance you but it is also cost effective! Books are getting so expensive these days but this little gem was found on the Best Sellers table at B&N for just $6.98!! What a steal for the lifetime of guidance that this will provide you with. 

Here is today's reflection for [January 1st] "If we want to change a situation, we first have to change ourselves. And to change ourselves effectively, we first have to change our perceptions."

Secondly, I purchased a journal titled, "My Daily Gratitude Journal". It intrigued me. I immediately decided that I wanted to commit to this beginning 1.1.16. It is so easy for us to get caught up in the constant ups and downs that life throws our way. A way to constantly ground your self or find balance through this journey is to remember why you are grateful. 

At the end of each day I will sit and write one thing that I was grateful for throughout that day. This will allow me to focus on the negative less. You can find a picture of my journal below. 

So fellow bookworms, first things first is go and get a gratitude journal! It doesn't have to be labeled that exactly. It could simply be a notebook that you have laying around. Reflect daily on what you are grateful for. It is so important. Also, at the end of the year you can look back and reflect on all things that made your year special. 

Secondly, I urge you all to read "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" as well as purchase the "Daily Reflections for Highly Effective People"

Give Thanks for you all stopping by and reading what I have reflected on!

I truly appreciate it :)

With Love, 

Lady Bookworm